Family Matters | Oct. 30, 2016

Family Matters

Getting Started

  • In what ways has divorce become an epidemic in the society we live in?

Sermon Recap

In the sermon series on Mark "Man of Prediction, God of Presence" our Church Planting Resident Matt Korte preached a sermon entitled "Family Matters" , from Mark 10:1-16. He kicked off the sermon talking about an interaction Jesus had with some Pharisee's that were trying to test Jesus with a question about divorce. Jesus had a way of answering questions with questions, and He did the same here in this instance. Jesus in response to the question about whether or not it was lawful for a man to divorce his wife, talks about the divinely created intention of marriage. Jesus taught those that were listening, that to understand divorce, they had to first understand the intent of marriage. He explained several things in this text, referencing Genesis 1:27, and Genesis 2:24, about what Gods divinely created intention was for marriage. Marriage can't be taken lightly in the Kingdom of God.

  • Marriage is God's eternal plan from the beginning.
  • Marriage is between a male and a female.
  • Marriage is between a man and a woman.
  • Marriage is the physical and spiritual uniting of two people as one.
  • Marriage is a life-long covenant.

We learned that to divorce one's spouse and remarry another without a biblical cause is to commit the sin of adultery. God's desire for troubled marriage is reconciliation. In Mark 10:13-16 we talked about "The Value of Children in the Kingdom of God." Jesus demonstrated that everyone including children had value in the Kingdom of God, and instructed His disciples that there were things that needed to be learned from children about how to approach the Kingdom of God. Children are humble, helpless and hopeful. They're dependent and trusting. These are lessons that all people in the Kingdom of God need to learn. So we summarized this portion of scripture as commitment to family matters in the kingdom of God. Marriage is an expression of the Kingdom of God and children are to be received in the kingdom of God because they have value. Where do we fall in this story?

  • We retreat from family when we should rally around family.
  • We seek resolution when we should seek restoration.
  • we reject who and what we should receive.

The pinnacle point of the sermon was the declaration that Jesus' commitment took Him to the cross for His bride, the Church. He never forsakes her, never abandons her, He always takes her back when she wonders. He is always patient with her, cares for and loves her. Jesus is the perfect example of what commitment to relationships looks like. But, our hope is found not in His example but in the death, burial, and resurrection of Jesus. In his death, he took on the brokenness of humanity, breaking His relationship with the Father and Holy Spirit, overcoming the pain and wreckage of broken relationships. He resurrected to secure our adoption into the family of God giving us the power through the Holy Spirit to have and be committed to our relationships. In response to this gospel reality, Matt gave us several ways we could respond.

Commitment to our relationships should model the gospel for those both inside, and outside the Kingdom of God:

  • We need to rally around our spouses.
    • Commitment to fight for sanctity and lifelong permanence in marriage.
    • Commitment to outdoing one another in honor.
    • Commitment to doing the ministry of the Kingdom as a family
  • We need to seek restoration in our relationships.
    • Commitment to stay engaged and involved in the lives of our spouses and children.
    • Commitment to confession of sin and repentance.
    • Commitment to counseling and accountability, when necessary.
  • We need to commit to bringing children to Jesus.
    • Commitment to discipleship of children, conversationally, resourcefully and practically.

Community Discussion

  • In what ways are we fighting to stay committed to the marital covenant we have made with our spouses? What are some practical ways to "fight" for commitment and restoration?
  • How have we viewed the Kingdom of God through our culturally influenced misunderstandings rather than God's original intent? Why is it important to understand and know God's designs for marriage instead of relying on the culture we live for our formation?
  • In what ways have we rejected children in the Kingdom of God? How can we contribute to the discipling of children?

Further Discussion


  • How have you allowed cultural misunderstandings to form your viewpoints instead of the original intent of God and His word?
  • In what ways have you sought restoration in your broken relationships? What hinders you from seeking restoration?
  • What can you learn from children regarding the Kingdom of God? How have you rejected children, or rejected learning the lessons that children teach us about the Kingdom?


  • How are you fighting for commitment to the marital covenant you have with your spouse? What could your marriage model for those inside and those outside the kingdom? In what ways could your marriage grow to reflect God's design for marriage?
  • What measures are you taking inside of your home to disciple your children? How have you neglected this responsibility?